To BEAT Or not To BEAT

I feel i must issue a disclaimer before i proceed with this jagged subject..here it goes

i ,thought,do not in any way condone or have partaken in domestic abuse

Now that i have got that out of the way....
I promised myself that i would not take part in idle gossip and the lynching of an accused before evidence is provided, but i find myself having to address this issue that seems to have spread faster than the Australian bush fires.
The case in point is that of two highly successful and highly profiled R&B singers. As in everything celebrity these days, their lives becomes our concern and tidbit for conversation by the water cooler or in my case online communication. I have maintained my silence for the above reasons,but i felt the need to stamp my own view on the generic topic rather than focus on the specific limelight individuals.
few followers of this blog have enquired about my position...here goes again.
See above disclaimer.....however i will raise the question more as a start of a social debate rather than a finite position on my part. The question i am asking my village (see tune in/tune out)is...

'could there ever be any justifiable explanation to a woman being beaten by a man'?

I have spoken to both male and female friends and they are instantly shocked by such a question.
Responses range from "how could you say that" or "are you condoning domestic violence"
My response is that,have our village been so indoctrined that it is viable for a woman to hit a man without any social or legal consequences,but as soon as a man retaliates or in some cases self defends,he is labelled the Ike Turner of his generation,a deviant, a wife beater,a morally corrupt man...i could go on.
What fairness can be attained by blind and blanket labelling of individual cases?
Once again see the disclaimer above...i sense blood boiling.
I understand the argument backing the disgust towards men hitting women absolutely,however this does not cfully compute.
I was personally raised to believe that a man should never hit a woman and the argument to support that will seem to go against the preachings of Feminists over the world.

I was taught that women are physically weaker than men (which automatically invokes a superiority complex in a young male)
I was taught that a man should protect a woman (which automatically portrays the woman as a wilting flower that needs to be shielded from the harsh world)
I was taught that if you EVER hit a woman, you are not a real man (which automatically confuses the definition of man to a young male) i.e Men don't cry,but women do (sign of weakness)
I could go on....
Every sign to support such a distorted social view also supports women in a weak position.

Many moons ago, i was the recipient of a ill judged physical attack by a man,(maybe he didn't like the smell of my Isi Miyake aftershave). My retaliation was immediate, and the assailant saw the error of his way (machismo alert)

In previous relationships (with women) i have been the recipient of physical and highly painful punches to the face and chest and stomach and also an attempt to destroy my crown jewels,which luckily missed. My retaliation was to instinctively enbolden my stance, stare down my attacker and.....back down. You see my brain got engaged before my nature could fully react.
My brain has been programmed to not retaliate physically, and i guess i was programmed well. In other incidents my backing away was not sufficient to disuade my previously soft looking girlfriend,as she continued what in that moment seemed like a frenzied attack (no, i didn't leave the toilet seat up).
My village, what should i have done......what i did do was to physically hold her off...strongly (my head was throbbing at this point) in which she replied by trying to kick my testicles through my urethra..(men take a moment to digest)

Scenes like these occur more often than documented,but i am sure the reactions will be along the lines of, "just walk away"
But this behaviour is excused by patronising responses of "maybe she was hormonal" or"what did you do to her" (i get that one a lot) as if there is an explainable justification for my assault.
My village, i put it to you that this way of looking at this humanistic behaviour is a warped view wrapped in good intentions. It should be equally inexcusable to assault anyone. If self defence is a legal right,then should it not be a social right???
By the way, the punch i received from the man hurt less than that of both women....so save me the weaker sex shpiel...i am sure if i was hit by most women i know...i would feel it as much as if hit by some men.
My village go forth and discuss and be sure to fill me in....

In the mean time...men, if you are on the receiving end of a perfectly placed and timed punch/kick....breathe in ,put your arms out, try to contain the swarm and if possible give them the look...you know , the look that says...i'll shake the weave out of your hair.


Thought